in the sun at the beach, because he forgets, for the time being, his usual problems. But there is a world of psychological (and physiological) difference between forgetting problems, and simply not having them. I believe that our Femmeselves just do not have the prob- lems and worries because we have symbolically entered a world in which our usual problems do not exist.

I do not mean to imply by the above that women do not have real problems, they do, but they are wom- en's problems not men's. Both sexes may have the common problems of making a living, paying the rent etc., but I'm referring to the more subtle problems of just having to always be ME... the same old ME and no escape from what I am supposed to be and do... from what society expects of this ME. That ME is left be- hind when I enter the femme-world and thus I cease to have the same requirements of constancy, solidity, etc. etc. I learned this clearly one day when I wanted a wide sunhat to go with a white dress with gold belt, shoes and accessories. I found a white straw hat with big gold sequins on it. To a man it was just another silly woman's hat, and as Charles that is just the way I felt about, it. But Charles didn't buy it, Virginia did and I felt very feminine and in style with it. App- arently others thought so too as one woman came up to me as we entered a store and said, "My dear, I just wanted to tell you how nice that hat looks with your outfit, I saw you clear across the parking lot and just wanted to tell you so. You can imagine I was knocked off my pins by this, but I greatly appreciated it, for I knew I had arrived". You don't think I was worry- ing about payrolls, sales, contracts, etc., at a time like that do you? That wasn't relaxation that was just living, and Man I dig that, like WOW!

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